Loving You

loving you

Love – possibly the most abstract of all words, yet so often used that we have lost the true meaning and essence of the power that lies within these four letters. I love who I am, what I do, my daughter and son-in-law, life, my friends and family (most of the time), and I love the fact that there is always a better way to do things. But what does that say about me? It says I love different people and things, but it fails to reflect what I mean by the word love.

So let us take a look at one of the most well known expressions of love – God is Love. But again, what does that mean. It is still far too abstract. I find that whilst I hold no religious belief system, one of the best narrations of love is from the Bible:

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

It also says that you must love your neighbor as yourself. So what does that imply? It means that you must first love yourself, and then everyone else around you. Love does no harm. Period. Love does not mean that you condone certain behaviors and actions of others, it just means that you suspend judgment long enough to know everyone is doing the best they can with what they have, or they have seriously gone off the rails and need your love anyway. It is not your role to judge anyone (or yourself) on this planet. It is not your job to further hatred, lies and deceit. It is your function to be happy. To love one another, and to see the inter-connectedness of all life. Because, at the end of it all, we are all connected – one – on this great cosmic adventure called life.

The Love Foundation™ is the seat within where everything else resides. It is within you and me.

It is said that you should build on solid ground. Well, you are going to get no stronger ground than building everything you do on a foundation of love. The word ‘love’ has been used so often, that it seems to have lost its true meaning. It is about far more than emotional sentimentality. It is about showing respect, dignity, trust, compassion, empathy, understanding and equity to every person on this planet. Not just to your personal bias group, but to everyone. To those who do not share the same beliefs as you; those who have a different sexual orientation to you; those who are a different race, gender and/or social status.

It is about not lording yourself over another person. It is about identifying what is healthy and unhealthy ego boundaries, and above all, it is about extending the hand of friendship to all those that you can help who are in need.

For you to fully grasp the reality of building your life on a foundation of love, you will first need to assess your own interpretation of love, and to readjust your perceptions if you find them to be distorted, and I am here to help you with that.