EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Emotions are energy in motion. They play an important role in how we think and behave. The emotions we feel compel us to take action and influence the decisions we make. There are three parts to an emotion:

  1. A subjective component – how you experience the emotion
  2. physiological component – how your body reacts to the emotion
  3. An expressive component – how you behave in response to the emotion

Emotions can be short-lived, such as a flash of annoyance at someone, or long-lasting, such as grief over loss. But why exactly do we experience emotions? What role do they serve?

Emotions can encourage us to take action. They can help us survive, thrive and avoid danger (flight or fight response). They help others understand us better and vice versa.

Emotions allow us to experience the highs and lows in life. They help us engage more fully in self-awareness, and best of all, they allow us to experience the richness of love, life and laughter.

Emotions can unfortunately be like an unbridled horse that has bolted from the stable, and it is up to us to bring ourselves back into check, and to learn to lean into all our emotions – the comfortable and the uncomfortable. That which you resist – persists.

So if you try and resist the uncomfortable emotions, they will hang about. Trust me on this. But, if you lean into the uncomfortableness of the emotion, you will soon learn that  you are the master of your emotions and not the other way around.

Empowering yourself is probably one of the best gifts you will ever give yourself. It holds the power to free you from all the obstacles you have been dragging around with you for years, perhaps even decades.

I know people who would rather harbor grievances, hatred, resentment, vengeance, envy, judgment, criticism and other destructive emotions – just because they want to feel ‘right’ or ‘vindicated’. But if I am to be the one to tell you this truth, then so be it – YOU ARE ONLY HURTING YOURSELF. You are harming yourself in ways that you cannot even begin to imagine. Now isn’t THAT a sad story to tell? Oh, my life’s a mess because I have done this to myself. I was the person above – until I decided one day to let it all go. All of it. Every. Single. Bit. Of. It.

Let that all go and get your power back.